An ongoing discussion about victory over sexual addiction.
The introduction here.
Part One, excuses and myths, here.
Part Three, the soul, here.
Part Three and a half, the soul, here.
Part Four: I’m Ready To Cut It Off. Here.
Part Five: Quitting Isn’t Enough. Here.
My podcast series “Cutting It Off” — here.
Why Do I Use Porn? Why Can’t I Stop? Here.
Every question submitted about porn on this blog, here.
**Updated: May 2013
For the podcast episode based on this post, click here.
The science behind porn addiction will not surprise you. It can be easily mocked as apocalyptic research with an old-fashioned bias, but excuses to use porn are also biased by the hand down your pants. Objective evidence of pornography’s effects has one goal: to show how much porn screws up your brain. For some that will be enough to quit.
Obviously, something serious is happening in the neurology of a person who will not stop using porn. Constant exposure to graphic, unreal, out-of-bounds sex doesn’t just go in one hand and out the other (bad pun). Like the heroin addict or the gambler or the alcoholic, several key things are happening.
Much of the following research is borrowed and not my own. Please keep in mind that the term “addiction” is a serious term and might or might not apply to you, but it’s worth investigating. I don’t mean to over-dramatize here or make a big show of scientific language, but porn use does have a particular undeniable effect on the brain.
Sources include Craig Gross’ Pure Eyes, Eyes of Integrity, and Dirty Little Secret, and William Struther’s Wired For Intimacy. I’ve read and re-read these important resources and highly recommend them to you. There is also research from Mark Driscoll’s Porn Again Christian, Michael Leahy’s Porn Nation, Mike Wilkerson’s Redemption, Tim Chester’s Closing The Window, and David Powlison’s tiny booklet Slaying The Dragon. Where possible, I’ve tried to research articles and current news behind pornography and the porn industry. And of course, there is personal experience with addiction plus countless hours spent with young and old porn addicts.
The Addict’s Path: