YouTube: “We Can Disagree, And That’s Okay”

Here’s my first YouTube video, called “We Can Disagree, And That’s Okay.”

You like cats AND dogs? That’s okay.
You’re into science AND religion? That’s okay.
Single and not looking? That’s okay.
Introverted or extroverted? That’s okay.
You prefer romantic-comedy Ryan Gosling over Oscar-serious Ryan Gosling? That’s okay.
Republican or Democrat or neither? That’s okay.
Cheese on your ramen noodles? Well … maybe not okay.

Please subscribe to my channel and love y’all!

— J.S.

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The Dilemma Between Over-Restricting or Over-Relaxing On Sex and Sexuality

Anonymous asked a question:

How do single people embrace their sexuality without falling into sexual sin? I have seen many fall into this sin and regret it. However, I have seen many more try so hard to repress their sexual desires that they see sex or their sexuality as a dirty and evil part of them even when they marry. Is there a median to owning one’s sexuality and desire for sex, but not falling into lustful sin?

Hey there my friend, I believe that sexual desire is extremely difficult to master, and the church’s main solution has been to bash sex to scare you out of it.

The main thing here is that “sexual desire” itself owns too much of the focus in relationships.  Everyone’s talking about “sex” before they talk about faith, communication, maturity, finances, children, career, direction, decisions, and mental health.  None of these exist in a vacuum; they’re all interdependent.

I’ll even say that that there are many, many issues just as important as sexuality because people are not merely sexual beings.  You’ve probably heard it before, but any microscopic view of one issue tends to diminish the entire individuality of a whole person.  If we can begin with a holistic view of relationships, then we’ll see that sexuality is only one ingredient to a much larger, fuller understanding of people.

When we constantly come up with methodologies for a singular problem, then such a narrow-minded focus turns the problem into an unbeatable monster.  At the same time, if we relax about it too much or ignore the issue, then we’re ill-prepared to handle all the feelings as they come.

While some may disagree, I believe sex has a lower priority in the scale of relationships because when you’re over forty years old, it becomes way less critical in your mind.  I want to consider the long-term.

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My Favorite Author Re-Tweeted My Book.

My favorite author of the last few years, Josh Riebock, who wrote Heroes and Monsters, just retweeted about my book. I don’t mean to be that kind of guy, but I’m seriously cheering.

Get it here on Amazon!

— J.S.

Obliterating Fear.

You don’t have to wait for the fear to subside. Often fear is obliterated by the very act of deciding and doing.

The more you can act in spite of yourself — you’ll suddenly find that none of your worst fears are all that bad. The sky doesn’t fall on you and your pants don’t spontaneously disappear (if that’s happened, I’m so sorry). True confidence is just going for it anyway. Emotions are a good fuel at best and unreliable at their worst. Your emotions are real, yes, but they can’t determine your decisions. As determination wins, it gets easier every time.

— J.S. from What The Church Won’t Talk About