“If you are like me, the reason you sometimes feel sorry for yourself is because it feels good. I know that sounds odd, but if you think about it, it really does. When I feel sorry for myself, what I’m really saying is that I deserved better, that I am a better person than what the situation has dealt me. And if you think about it, that’s kind of an arrogant thing to say. It would be better if our attitude was more like, Man, that stinks, I didn’t get the job, or, That girl rejected me; better luck next time. Or we could just laugh about it with our friends. The trouble comes when something hard happens and we choose to stop and milk it for attention. There’s no progress in that, and it isn’t going to get us anywhere. And it’s also annoying.”
— Donald Miller
I feel like I rely too much on my church, the pastor’s sermons, and the community for my faith. Now that I’m away from my home church, my time spent with God has been little to none. Having an intimate relationship with God has never made sense to me which is why I depend on sermons and leaders’ words because its a source of immediate answers. I tried doing QTs regularly, praying, etc. but I feel like it’s one-way and I’m talking to a wall. What should I do before I completely fall away?
Hey friend, I’ll let you in on a big Christian secret.
Even if you had an amazing non-mega megachurch with an articulate young tatted hipster pastor and perfectly loving accountability partners and undiscovered podcasts from C.H. Spurgeon and your roommates were C.S. Lewis and Pope Francis — none of this will make your journey of faith a smooth ride forever.
It would definitely help. But I’ve seen many Christians in wonderful churches still struggle in their daily walk.
Because you and I — we’re human. It happens. Who knows why we suddenly get sad for no reason? Or happy for the same non-reason? Who knows why we change just as quickly as the weather? Who knows why we get tired of stuff and fall out of touch and change our preferences every hour?
All I can say to that is we are squishy fragile flesh-and-blood beings: and we can’t be so hard on ourselves about it.
You might feel like you’re falling away and you’re not praying “enough,” and I understand that: but please don’t let this feeling trick you into thinking you’ve lost God. Please do not grade yourself on a ridiculous standard that unfairly judges you.
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