“If you are like me, the reason you sometimes feel sorry for yourself is because it feels good. I know that sounds odd, but if you think about it, it really does. When I feel sorry for myself, what I’m really saying is that I deserved better, that I am a better person than what the situation has dealt me. And if you think about it, that’s kind of an arrogant thing to say. It would be better if our attitude was more like, Man, that stinks, I didn’t get the job, or, That girl rejected me; better luck next time. Or we could just laugh about it with our friends. The trouble comes when something hard happens and we choose to stop and milk it for attention. There’s no progress in that, and it isn’t going to get us anywhere. And it’s also annoying.”
— Donald Miller
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LOL. I love the “and it’s also annoying.” I used to have a hard time understanding how a pity party could be a form of pride. I thought that you mustn’t be thinking of yourself with pride if you are feeling low. But, the quote is correct. In essence, we are saying, “look at poor me – I deserve so much more than this.” The only thing we DESERVE is hell, but Jesus made it possible to have a close relationship with God who blesses us with so much more than we deserve, so it’s appropriate and necessary to be thankful for what we have, and to avoid pity over what we don’t.