So many men are trying to overcome lust and porn addiction and fantasizing — but the bad news is, we will fail.
The thing about stopping lust is that we can’t just “stop lust.”
That’s impossible. You might as well try to bite your ear or benchpress an airplane.
Besides: what you’re experiencing is probably not lust, but just your hormones and desires and natural human design. There’s nothing wrong with that, at all. We were made to have attraction and chemistry and romance and get married and have sex and make babies. To suppress that is to undermine our humanity: and God wants to make us more human, not less.
Actual lust is when you’re excessively orbiting around the objectification of another human being. It’s when natural desire becomes impersonal impulse. It’s to consider flesh as your mental play-toy and physical receptacle. It uses and abuses. It dehumanizes.
But lust is not just a bad organ that you can cut out of your body. Lust problems are indicative of a much bigger picture. It’s a systemic widespread issue that is connected to all the areas of your life. It’s wrapped up in who you are.
If you spend money like crazy, wake up in time for dinner, twist the truth to manipulate other people, show up late to everything, never listen to anyone, never put in effort anywhere, and push your agenda everywhere — then you will inevitably be a more lustful person. I would know, because I was like this.
If you live an undisciplined life: I wouldn’t expect that lust would be easy to control. Whatever we choose to orbit, this fundamental axis will also determine our thoughts, behaviors, and attitudes. Each facet of your life is so interconnected that if you move one, the others must follow.
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