For Your Fight in Mental Health

Last month, which was Mental Health Awareness Month, I was giving away my book on fighting depression. With the heartbreaking news this week, I’d like to extend that offer for the rest of this month. Please message me your email and I’ll send you a digital copy as soon as I can. You can also email me directly at

Just a few things:

1) There’s a lot of bad advice out there about depression. Or rather, some of it fits and some of it doesn’t. Everyone’s experience is remarkably different. While a book or class or seminar might help, there’s no one-size-fits-all for mental health.

2) I’ve heard the refrain, “You never know what someone is struggling with, so be kind.” I absolutely 100% agree with this. At the same time, even if you know what someone is struggling with, it’s hard to know what to say and how to be. Even the kindest words might not “save” that person. Obviously, be kind and be present. But it’s impossible to get this right every time. You can only try your best every time. I’m grateful for my wife and for friends who are always trying their best with me. It isn’t easy for any of us.

3) There’s a kind of hopelessness when we hear news about suicide. Could we have done more? What pushed them to the edge? Can we offer more resources? What will make the difference?

All this can feel paralyzing. And many will make grand gestures like donating a lot or preaching on social media (like I’m doing right now). Those gestures can be good and necessary. Yet there are people around us—neighbors, family, co-workers, roommates—who need us. Sometimes going grand ends up forgetting the person in front of us. We need both, to help those near and those afar. And it might be that you’re called to just the one person right next to you.

#KateSpade #AnthonyBourdain

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