Anonymous asked a question:
If a friend of yours who showed no signs of racism ever just happened to get mad at you about something and called you a racial slur, what would you do?
Hey my friend. That’s terrible that this happened to you, and I’m sorry.
That’s also a very, very big yikes for me.
The short answer here is that your friend is most likely a racist, and it’s a good idea to drop them.
Some words are so charged, violent, and historically poisonous that they should never be spoken, certainly never from a friend you trusted, whether they were angry or not. For me, that would be a red flag, dealbreaker, and burned bridge all in one. I would have an extremely difficult time forgiving, much less trusting, this person again.
Before that sounds too harsh, here’s a story that my friend told me.