Question: The Hostility Against Recovering Porn Addicts

ourlowlylovelyking asked: Often, when I see articles about people sharing the downsides of porn, even from a non-religious view-point, I will see so many comments with backlash, telling the author that they are making the statistics up and that it’s not harming anyone. It leaves me so discouraged, as if they do not care about … Continue reading Question: The Hostility Against Recovering Porn Addicts

Question: Trying To Quit Porn and Keep Failing

Anonymous asked: Hi, Pastor Park. I’ve messaged you before but first I want to say thank you so, so much for all of your posts. They have really helped me to grow and I thank God for you even though you’re on the other side of the country. I’m sorry to switch tones so drastically, … Continue reading Question: Trying To Quit Porn and Keep Failing

Question: Fell Again To Porn And Can’t Break Free

Anonymous asked: Hi pastor, I went 11 days without pornography/masturbation. I faltered last night and gave in. The temptation was too strong not only emotionally but very physically.  I could not help it. I prayed for it to go away because I really do want to stop but … I’m stuck and starting to think … Continue reading Question: Fell Again To Porn And Can’t Break Free

Question: Porn Addiction and Women

Two anons: – Do you have any words for women who struggle with pornography or masturbation or both? A lot of the dialogue necessarily focuses on guys, but what about the women of the church? – I’m a female, and I’m curious to know if masturbation is a sin? and if so, why? I’ve heard … Continue reading Question: Porn Addiction and Women

Question: About To Marry a Porn Addict

Two anons asked: – Hi! I enjoy reading your blog and I know you have battled a porn addiction. I have a few questions. How do you feel about people who are battling against a porn addiction while dating? Do you think that person could have a genuinely Christ-centered, Godly and healthy relationship? Or is … Continue reading Question: About To Marry a Porn Addict

Questions: Dating a Porn Addict, Talking To Atheists, and Making Disciples

Anonymous asked: I really admire your success story with porn, but what about somebody on the other side of the issue? For some reason I can’t get over the fact that my boyfriend used to watch it about a year ago and it makes me extremely angry and vulnerable whenever I think about it. I … Continue reading Questions: Dating a Porn Addict, Talking To Atheists, and Making Disciples

Question: How Did You Overcome “Porn Addiction?”

Anonymous asked: You said you were an ex porn addict; how did you overcome this addiction, and when did you realize it was too much of an addiction to where it affected your life?  [Warning: This post might be slightly graphic.]   A few years ago, if someone had told me I was “addicted” to … Continue reading Question: How Did You Overcome “Porn Addiction?”

Question: I Can’t Turn Off The Porn!

Anonymous asked: Hey! I came across your blog a few days ago and I couldn’t be more grateful. I’m just going to get to it, I cannot stop watching porn 😦 … I cannot tell anyone, not my parents … The stuff you’ve put up to help with these sort of things firstly it is … Continue reading Question: I Can’t Turn Off The Porn!

Question: How Did You Quit Porn?

Anonymous asked: I would understand if you declined, but could you tell me how you recovered from pornography addiction? And if so, what made you decide to stop? Do you think your friends and family were affected by your addictions? I’m working on publishing the stories of pornography addicts and the effects on themselves and … Continue reading Question: How Did You Quit Porn?

Question: Fighting Porn For The Last Time (Again)

Two anonymous questions: Did you ever stumble after you decided to quit porn? or was it like going cold turkey? & what happens if you do stumble? does that mean that you’ve failed? And: I know you posted a whole series on the topic, but…I feel like I need to hear it from you – … Continue reading Question: Fighting Porn For The Last Time (Again)

Question: Quit Porn, But What About Masturbating?

Anonymous asked: I’ve read your series about pornography and it has been a huge help to me. I am not joking when I say you have a way of conveying things. I was wondering if you have any similar type of advice with masturbation? For me, pornography was easier to quit because I can avoid … Continue reading Question: Quit Porn, But What About Masturbating?

Question: Porn Killed My Feelings For God, Now What?

Anonymous asked: I am in a rut. I have been trying to deal with some sexual immorality, and I had been changing, turning to God in my temptation, until recently I went on a mini sin spree. I am talking about several things, porn, masturbation, ect. So now as I try to start over, I … Continue reading Question: Porn Killed My Feelings For God, Now What?

Question: Just used porn, what do I do?

Anonymous asked: i just masturbated to extreme pornography 4 minutes ago. im a christian. i am riddled with guilt. what do i do? i am tired of this. but i feel like a hypocrite My friend, let me talk to you two ways. First, you need to know you’re loved. God loves you in Christ, … Continue reading Question: Just used porn, what do I do?

I Want My Boyfriend To Quit Porn: But How?

Two anonymous questions: – My boyfriend watches porn and masturbates. He knows that it bothers him and he has been trying to quit. Would it be a good idea to tell him that I will not even consider marriage until he has been clean for a year? – How should I help my boyfriend who … Continue reading I Want My Boyfriend To Quit Porn: But How?

About Porn Addiction.

Hey dear friends, one of the most frequent questions I get is about breaking porn addiction. I was addicted for fifteen years and have now been sober for over three, by the grace of God (and a lot of vigilant work). So I’m going to compile a very short booklet with every resource I have … Continue reading About Porn Addiction.

How’s Your Life After Porn Addiction? And Is There Any Hope To Find a Lust-Free Man?

speaktenderly asked a question: Since your porn addiction and recovery, do you have freedom in the way you see women now? Are you still affected by objectifying thoughts? I ask as I am a woman, discouraged at the state of men. Just recently a very godly man attempted to push boundaries with me – and … Continue reading How’s Your Life After Porn Addiction? And Is There Any Hope To Find a Lust-Free Man?

Question: Graciously Entering The Mess of Another

beingdaisy asked: How do I relate to people who are tempted in ways I do not feel tempted by? How can I show Christ’s love in that situation? Also, what is the difference between judgement and discernment? Sometimes, it feels from the Christian community to be one and the same with different connotations. Hey my … Continue reading Question: Graciously Entering The Mess of Another

Question: A Reason To Live Despite The Hell I’m In

Anonymous asked: I want to kill myself. I been in an adolescent ward when I was like 16. I’m now 17 and things have only gotten worse for me. I’m a girl and I’m addicted to stuff I shouldn’t be. I was sexually abused/molested when I was younger and when I was younger I abused … Continue reading Question: A Reason To Live Despite The Hell I’m In

Question: Addiction Is A Disease or Choice?

Anonymous asked: Do you believe that addiction is a disease (as in a biological or psychological condition) or that it is a self-imposed affliction based on choice? Hey my friend, first of all: If you’re suffering from an addiction, please get help with this right away. Having fought a fifteen year porn addiction and also … Continue reading Question: Addiction Is A Disease or Choice?

Why I Stopped Helping Porn Addicts

Edit: December 1st, 2014 – My new e-book about quitting porn addiction is here! It’s only $2.99 on Amazon! It contains this entire series of posts plus brand new info, fully updated and fleshed out, with specific steps to quit. It’s been a few years since I quit porn, and I’ve written and podcasted tons … Continue reading Why I Stopped Helping Porn Addicts