I’m Too Old to Find Love: How Do I Start?

Anonymous asked a question:

How do I find Christian love at 27? I find that so old to start afresh…

Hey dear friend, first I’d like to point you here:

– 7 Thoughts on Singleness: Is Something Wrong with Me?

I know that being single when you don’t want to be is painful. There’s no way around it. I also believe that singleness is a perfectly legitimate life-choice, and that it can be a gift in itself.

There is no “too old” when it comes to dating and marriage. I got married “late” according to our current social standards. I didn’t even meet my wife until I was in my mid-twenties. My dad was married at forty years old. Chris Tomlin was 38 when he got married. C.S. Lewis didn’t marry until he was 58. Even more, Oprah Winfrey didn’t find “fame” until she was in her forties. Timothy Keller didn’t write his first book until he was 58. Harper Lee was 34 when she wrote To Kill a Mockingbird and J.K. Rowling was 32 when she wrote Harry Potter. 

Who is early? Who is late? What if our time is just our time?

I think it’s okay to be looking, whether at church or conferences or your workplace or through a hobby you enjoy. But as you might have heard a million times: it’s important to work on yourself. That idea is a catchphrase by now, but it’s no less true.

While dating and marriage have their own blessings, the life of singleness is uniquely like no other time. I know, it is painful sometimes. But so are dating and marriage.

All these life phases have their own challenges and joys. Enjoy your season, learn a ton, go to the places you want to go, serve the people you are called to serve. While you’re living your wonderful single adventure, there will be plenty of people alongside you who are your family. And one of them might become something more.

— J.S.

Also see:

– The Truths and Myths of Christian Dating and Relationships

– 5 Kinds of Romanticized Crushes That Will Mess You Up

– The Impossible Search For a Soul-Mate With My Interests

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2 thoughts on “I’m Too Old to Find Love: How Do I Start?

  1. I just love the way you write so much! I’m a single gal from Brasil and I really have 0 problems with being single, focusing currently on my career and my love for academic papers; but I loved reading this anyway, even if it doesn’t necessarily fit me. Because your love for others, your compassion, your love for Christ above all, can be felt from your words to here, the other side of the world. I follow you on tumblr as well and loved your post about racism and intolerance in the church. I hope all is well with you now, I have also been throught that. Anyways, my english is not the best but I hope I expressed my gratitude succesfully. If not, let me be more foward: thank you so much for existing. You have no idea how much you have been helping people like me. May God bless you today and forever!

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