Wise Love.

I see this sort of thing all the time where a friend tells me they’re interested in someone, and I know the timing isn’t right or they’re not right for each other, but they’ll go for it anyway. It never, ever, ever works out. Not once. It’s not because I’m some kind of prophet or expert. I just know that if the timing ain’t right, it doesn’t matter how right he or she might be: it won’t work. If they’re not right for you, it doesn’t matter how much you try or force it or convince yourself: it won’t work.

Relationships are hard. It takes a narrow window of timing and compatibility and your entire life to keep it going. You don’t need to rush that. You’ll catch feelings sometimes, but they’re something that happens to you and they’re not you. You still get to decide what to do with them. They’re the caboose and not the dang engine. And it’s okay if it doesn’t work out. You still got work to do.

— J.S.