pfahlercommakatelyn asked a question:
How do you deal with your mother and other people not being saved? Do you have any hope for them?
Hey dear friend, I have a ton of hope for my family. I have a ton of hope for everyone else in my life who doesn’t know Christ.
I understand two simple things.
1) They have a completely different worldview than me, and I need to adjust my dials for them — not in a way that compromises my faith, but in a way that shows grace. I don’t ever force them to bend to me.
2) I really dislike the way that our current church-culture does evangelism. I don’t mean to badmouth the church, because I do love her. But the two extreme methods I see are either “Sales Pitch” or “Relational Comfort.” Either I have to package Jesus into a four-point doctrine, or bringing them cookies will somehow indirectly point to Jesus. The former approach presumes that I need to rush the entire thing; the latter approach assumes all the time in the world and that I’m catering by a non-offensive watered-down gospel. Neither approach works.
I don’t believe in a separate category of evangelism. Faith is an entire way of life and it will naturally exude through the overflow of loving Jesus. My family sees this, not in my presentation of theology or in my nice-guy-mannerisms, but simply in how I make counter-cultural decisions under the banner of a substitutionary love called Christ.
This is an imperfect process and I don’t think any reasonable person expects a perfect Christian. They only expect a real one. Really the best thing they could say for now is, “I don’t believe in all that stuff, but it looks like you’re doing it right.” I know that isn’t everything, but it’s a start, and faith is so often a journey of starts to the end.