Question: Fell Again To Porn And Can’t Break Free


Anonymous asked:

Hi pastor, I went 11 days without pornography/masturbation. I faltered last night and gave in. The temptation was too strong not only emotionally but very physically.  I could not help it. I prayed for it to go away because I really do want to stop but … I’m stuck and starting to think God isn’t going to help me out. So all I’ve been doing is praying for forgiveness. But since I’ve done this vicious cycle so many times I don’t know if I’m actually forgiven, because I don’t actually know if I’m truly sorry because I’ve been through this so many times … I’m just stumped and don’t know where to go from here, I just want all temptation to go away.


Hey there dear friend.  Thank you so much for your honesty and for even trusting me with such a huge issue.

Please first allow me the grace to link a post that contains every other post I’ve written on porn:

– Mega-Post: Struggling With Porn (Again)


I have to say upfront that you are still just as loved by God as you were yesterday, a billion years ago, and a billion years from now.  I know I’m probably not supposed to say that because it can accidentally make Christians “lazy,” but it’s true.  Whether you decide to receive His grace for good or for bad, either way He still loves you.  That’s the most important thing I could say, and it’s the only motivation strong enough to keep us moving forward from sin towards Him.

You also need to know that fighting sin is a process.  Sometimes it is lifelong.  It’s not something that we can just “pray away” or will disappear one day.  It gets easier to handle, but we will be in battle with our flesh until glory.

After we mess up, we often only look at the tiny microscopic moment of what just happened.  But God sees us over a lifetime.  He knows if you really want to quit, if you are truly repenting, if you are really pursuing Him.  And the crazy thing is: even if you never regretted it, He will still love you.  If you can know His heart this way, then suddenly it’s not about quitting anymore.  Instead, it’s about knowing Him. 



Most people just try to “quit porn” when it’s really about finding how good God is first.  Otherwise, you might be able to quit, but you’ll have all this free time without knowing what to do.

That means: Just walk with Him.  Pray.  Read about Him.  Hang out with mature Christians.  Confess your issues to your pastor or a trustworthy person.  Serve your church and your community.  We don’t do these things to earn God, but because we’ve been made and saved for them.  When you do what you’re made to do, you’re less likely to do anything less.

But if you really need a method, then try this.  Try a fast from porn or anything related to sensual stuff for a week.  That means, if there’s a TV show or a magazine or a certain website that causes a chain reaction of lusting thoughts, then stay away.  You probably already know this is called a trigger.  Avoid those.  Then replace your time with Christ.  That can even mean jogging or calling a friend or baking a cake or racing a jet.  Start changing those habits, not to win God, but because God has already won you.

Will pray for you.  Message me again if you like.

— J.S.


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One thought on “Question: Fell Again To Porn And Can’t Break Free

  1. Reblogged this on bernicium and commented:
    “God sees us over a lifetime.

    …even if you never regretted it, He will still love you. If you can know His heart this way, then suddenly it’s not about quitting anymore. Instead, it’s about knowing Him. “

    Like

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