What’s your opinion on gay people? I believe in God. Everyone says that homosexuality is wrong and it says so in the Bible, but they’re people too, and I think God loves them. I don’t think someone chooses to be gay, and I don’t think gays are going to “burn in hell” as some people say. I just wanted to know what you think..? I just need a real answer from someone.
Thank you for this question. You know: I had written this overly long, detailed, theological blog post in reply, but I’m going to forgo all that to offer a few thoughts to reflect on. Do as you will with them.
1) God loves you, end of story. If you say, “God loves you, BUT –” then we’re not talking about God, the Gospel, or grace.
2) It is not your job to convert someone to anything, ever. Don’t even. God never says, “Change first.” God loves first.
3) Your sexual identity is NOT the only thing about you. So that secular news anchor or that angry preacher-man who keeps bringing up this issue are both being narrow-minded sensationalists. And let’s stop using the words “bigot” or “liberal” or “homophobia” if you don’t understand the subtlety of rational conversation and the nuances of human thought.
4) I want to apologize on behalf of morons like Fred Phelps, the Westboro gang, preachers who tough-talk the pulpit to “stand up for what’s right,” and for the entire modern church that has diminished the humanity of real living breathing human beings who have homosexual feelings.
5) The church likes to stand on what we’re against instead of what we’re for. You can tell me what I’m doing wrong all day, but unless you show me something else: then we’re still at square one, ground zero.
6) When I’ve talked with gay friends, I’ve realized the church has never offered another option besides, “Stop it.” And even when we try to hold up traditional marriage as the bastion of righteousness, most Christian marriages are so screwed up that we’ve revoked our own right to speak.
7) When Apostle Paul wrote about marriage, I bet he was thinking that Christians would show the best marriages ever — because up to this point, women were treated as cattle and men were given free reign with no rules.
Paul called for a revolutionary love-based marriage: for husbands to give their lives for their wives like Jesus and for wives to serve their husbands like Jesus. But the church has fragmented this beyond comprehension.
8) I wish I could share the awesome joy of Christian marriage with the whole world and to be able to say, “See how cool this can be?” — but that’s a failed dream now. It’s no wonder that more and more people are not seeing “traditional marriage” as an option: because it’s not looking that much different than the ruined home they grew up in.
9) This is a global issue — because before the church can really present their case, they need to freaking have one first. No, we’re not called to be perfect, but I think saying “I’m not perfect” becomes an excuse to be lukewarm. No one wants perfection: they just want real. That starts with you and me, dear Christians.
10) One day, your homosexual friend might come around to the beauty of a biblical marriage between one man and one woman. One day, your friend might understand that you respect him or her no matter what. One day, your friend might look at your marriage and want something like that, if there is something worth showing (oh church, if you’d only see yourselves). One day, your friend might be hit with the true heart of the Gospel and experience the total grace of Jesus — one day.
But whether or not that happens, you keep loving on your friend. Dang it, we better love this world like crazy. No one is a project. We are not “superior” to them. We are not the harbinger of justice or Advice-Robot 2000 or the fixer of all things wrong. You are one flawed human being who is called to love another flawed human being. You love them. Jesus died for you and for them too.