10 Thoughts About God and Homosexuality

Anonymous asked:

What’s your opinion on gay people? I believe in God. Everyone says that homosexuality is wrong and it says so in the Bible, but they’re people too, and I think God loves them. I don’t think someone chooses to be gay, and I don’t think gays are going to “burn in hell” as some people say. I just wanted to know what you think..? I just need a real answer from someone.


Thank you for this question.  You know: I had written this overly long, detailed, theological blog post in reply, but I’m going to forgo all that to offer a few thoughts to reflect on.  Do as you will with them.


1) God loves you, end of story.  If you say, “God loves you, BUT –” then we’re not talking about God, the Gospel, or grace. 


2) It is not your job to convert someone to anything, ever.  Don’t even.  God never says, “Change first.”  God loves first.


3) Your sexual identity is NOT the only thing about you. So that secular news anchor or that angry preacher-man who keeps bringing up this issue are both being narrow-minded sensationalists.  And let’s stop using the words “bigot” or “liberal” or “homophobia” if you don’t understand the subtlety of rational conversation and the nuances of human thought.


4) I want to apologize on behalf of morons like Fred Phelps, the Westboro gang, preachers who tough-talk the pulpit to “stand up for what’s right,” and for the entire modern church that has diminished the humanity of real living breathing human beings who have homosexual feelings.


5) The church likes to stand on what we’re against instead of what we’re for. You can tell me what I’m doing wrong all day, but unless you show me something else: then we’re still at square one, ground zero.


6) When I’ve talked with gay friends, I’ve realized the church has never offered another option besides, “Stop it.”  And even when we try to hold up traditional marriage as the bastion of righteousness, most Christian marriages are so screwed up that we’ve revoked our own right to speak.


7) When Apostle Paul wrote about marriage, I bet he was thinking that Christians would show the best marriages ever — because up to this point, women were treated as cattle and men were given free reign with no rules. 

Paul called for a revolutionary love-based marriage: for husbands to give their lives for their wives like Jesus and for wives to serve their husbands like Jesus.  But the church has fragmented this beyond comprehension.


8) I wish I could share the awesome joy of Christian marriage with the whole world and to be able to say, “See how cool this can be?” — but that’s a failed dream now.  It’s no wonder that more and more people are not seeing “traditional marriage” as an option: because it’s not looking that much different than the ruined home they grew up in.


9) This is a global issue — because before the church can really present their case, they need to freaking have one first.  No, we’re not called to be perfect, but I think saying “I’m not perfect” becomes an excuse to be lukewarm.  No one wants perfection: they just want real.  That starts with you and me, dear Christians.


10) One day, your homosexual friend might come around to the beauty of a biblical marriage between one man and one woman.  One day, your friend might understand that you respect him or her no matter what.  One day, your friend might look at your marriage and want something like that, if there is something worth showing (oh church, if you’d only see yourselves).  One day, your friend might be hit with the true heart of the Gospel and experience the total grace of Jesus — one day.

But whether or not that happens, you keep loving on your friend.  Dang it, we better love this world like crazy.  No one is a project.  We are not “superior” to them.  We are not the harbinger of justice or Advice-Robot 2000 or the fixer of all things wrong.  You are one flawed human being who is called to love another flawed human being.  You love them.  Jesus died for you and for them too.

— J.S.


18 thoughts on “10 Thoughts About God and Homosexuality

  1. In my job at the hospital, there are a lot of gay nurses, whom I am friends with. I don’t look at them as homosexual first. It dosen’t effect how I feel about them as a person. They are my friends first. I may not agree with the “practice” of homosexuality, but I can still love the person. I also help serve victims of aids, the homeless, drug addicts, and alcoholics. I grow close to them throughout their stay, and get to know them as people. They are not their disease. I feel very blessed to be able to serve them in what little way I can. When I offer my hand to them, they hold onto it like it’s their lifeline. We connect. I’m only a secretary there, but I love the patients. All of them. You really learn, in that environment, if you pay attention, that every life matters. If you offer prayers for them, they truly appreciate it. Every person mattered to Jesus. They need to matter to us, as well, no matter who they are.


    1. Thank you so much for sharing your heart on this and for your awesome ministering. I know church members who actively fight for gay marriage, and whether or not I agree with them, I’m called to love them too. It seems like disagreement today is interpreted as “I hate you,” which only cuts the conversation. I’m hoping for a more nuanced discussion in the public square that recognizes people as people and not issues but that probably won’t happen on a large scale. So as you said: we believe every life matters; we pray; we reach out.


  2. I agree completely with how you’ve put together this response. One concern I have that I’m seeing more and more is that “Christianity” is starting to rationalize homosexuality because it’s becoming so popular. I know there are some on the other side who are speaking against it very wrongly, but it seems like there is this newer movement arising that is speaking for it and saying the Bible has no issue with it. Rob Bell, for example has just released his new book and he takes his stand in support of homosexuality. He has a pretty big voice in the world! I think we have to figure out how to stand for truth as God would (and only as He would). We can’t just start throwing out truth because it’s not popular. Maybe we could start pandering more to adulterers as well because it’s so common, etc. I know God loves, loves, loves everyone no matter what, but He doesn’t love every action and sin in their lives (mine included). His love extends to restore us!


  3. Man is the one who has put a rank on sin. We would not think to disenfranchise them if they were mere liars or cheats. Many have been very good at judgement not realizing that they will be judged with the same measure they have judged. We are not called to judge but to show we are Christ followers by our love! It is high time the Church got that right, or we are nothing but a clanging cymbal! Thanks for your post!.


  4. Actually livinginobscurity, Christians are called to judge certain people. Other Christians. When we see those who profess Christ behaving in an unChristlike manner, we are expected to confront them. We do judge: like a cop, not a magistrate. We are to know the Bible and Christ’s expectations well enough so that we can not only conduct ourselves properly, but also so that we can assist other professing Christ followers in their walk. This is judging as a cop would do, facing and arresting harmful attitudes and actions. The magistrate passes final judgment of guilt or innocence. Christ is the one and only magistrate.


    1. I wholeheartedly agree, however my experience has been that other Christians are harsh on other Christians. Many do not do it from love with the mindset of restoration. I have been in ministry for many years and it always amazes me the lack of Mercy shown, which was my original point. Mercy always triumphs over judgment. Thank you for your response to my comment. We are all a work in progress and it is always important to dialogue. If we are willing to come along side someone and lovingly help them walk out of their struggle, that is what is needed. I have just seen too many willing to point out improper conduct, but are not willing to get in the “mess” to help them up!


  5. Many years ago I wrote a newspaper column saying Jesus calls us to love, even homosexuals. The vitriolic letters to the editor which followed became the longest response to any article I ever wrote. All of them from “church” people. Glad I can jump in and say, “I agree”. If I can’t love I am just a tinkling tremble or a clashing noise (1 Corinthians 13). Blessings on you and all who live with love like this…


  6. This is great! I love your fifth point: we’re so vocal, so forceful of the things we’re against that we don’t have space to talk about the things we’re for- grace, mercy, love, the gospel. Thank you for this!


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