Whenever someone tells me, ‘Yeah I went to that church and the preacher was just so awful, yelling at us and and everything; that praise leader was so arrogant; that usher was so rude’ — I always cringe just a bit. Because I was the guy who yelled, too, and God patiently softened my heart over the years. Maybe that pastor really is a jerk, I don’t know, or maybe he was just having a bad day. But really you should give him the same grace that you were looking for. You don’t have to go back there, but please don’t judge a fraction of God’s work over a slice of someone’s lifetime.