How do you get people who have grown up in the church to realize that there is more to the Christian faith than going to church on Sundays and head knowledge? That there needs to be a change in the way you live your life once you become a Christian. Yes of course, ultimately it is the work of God who opens our eyes, but what sort of practical things do you suggest in the way I interact with them?
Dear friend: I realize you’re asking this because you really care about people, and we need more of you. That’s the right heart and you’re very appreciated. So please allow me some grace as I’m about to be a little rough.
Trying to open other peoples’ eyes is NOT YOUR JOB.
It’s not just ultimately God’s Work, but only God’s work. That’s not some soundbite you say “amen” to in church. That means you let go of any control-issues (we all have them) and really trust God with other people.
The only practical thing you can do is worry about yourself. You be the example. You pursue Christ, plead with the Spirit for authenticity and fruitful living, and love those halfway people. Don’t tell them what to do, don’t look over their shoulder, don’t point fingers, don’t mentally check what they’re doing wrong: just love them.
If you see some “Christians” drinking paint thinner, shooting street signs, selling meth, or peeing on Bibles — sure, say something. But if their only crime is “nominal Christian living,” well I mean jeez, give them some space. You’re seeing a tiny fraction of their lifetime and you have no idea what God can do through them.
Because really: Who even asked you? Are they coming to you about how to be sold out for Christ? If not, back up. Pray. If you start getting up in their grill about their life, they will avoid you: because you’ll become the religious nanny who raises an eyebrow and gives that critical frown. Everyone hates that person, and that person is also hateful. It doesn’t work for anybody.