Two questions, both anonymous:
The two big mention of tongues in Scripture is Acts 2 on the Day of Pentecost and 1 Corinthians 14. About as slow as you possibly can, read 1 Corinthians 14 and look at the plain obvious teaching. You’ll see that it’s NOT congruent with what you see in today’s church.
18 I thank God that I speak in tongues more than all of you. 19 But in the church I would rather speak five intelligible words to instruct others than ten thousand words in a tongue.
23 So if the whole church comes together and everyone speaks in tongues, and some who do not understand or some unbelievers come in, will they not say that you are out of your mind?
27 If anyone speaks in a tongue, two—or at the most three—should speak, one at a time, and someone must interpret. 28 If there is no interpreter, the speaker should keep quiet in the church and speak to himself and God.
Notice: Tongues is at the bottom of the list of gifts. Tongues is a turn-off to non-believers because they won’t get it. And tongues should be done with an interpreter, among believers, or else the dude speaking in tongues should do it at home with God. Otherwise it’s disrupting the peace of the church.
Do I believe tongues is still a gift of today’s believers? Why not. Cessationists — those who believe in the ceasing of some spiritual gifts — use some weird verses to justify their position (like 1 Cor. 13:8 or Ephesians 2:20). How do I know you got the gift? I’m not sure. But most people know when they’re faking anything; so are you? On an interesting note, recent research is showing that speaking-in-tongues doesn’t use the same parts of the brain as regular speech. So there’s something.
I was once a cessationist myself, and while I believe that many tongues and dreams and “extra words from God” could certainly be delusional, I don’t count them out anymore. No, they are not normative, but I don’t think God packed up His gifts either.
We also need to follow the obvious commands of 1 Corinthians 14 and not be yelling in tongues whenever we feel like it, because it does look like a cult sort of thing. That’s the very reason Apostle Paul says to keep it indoors, with believers, and only with an interpreter. It’s for the strength of the church, not to cause division or disorder or confusion. Which it can and often does.
I know: Everyone has an objection to this with some obscure Greek translation or whatever else. I’m reading the Bible for what it says, and about tongues it’s black and white in there. I don’t speak in tongues, but if I did I would follow exactly what 1 Cor. 14 says to do. That’s called — what’s that word again? Oh right, obedience.
As for looking like a cult: Is that what you’re really worried about? Not fitting in? Being palatable for your family? Relevant to the world?
You can’t be cool and follow Jesus at the same time. No one makes much of himself and also much of God. Our lives in Christ are foolishness to the spiritually blind and awesomeness for us. Sooner or later your love for Jesus will even look like hate towards your family, because our loyalty for God can’t compete with people. Believing in the “Christian religion” has always looked like a cult. The better question is: You okay with giving your blood-bought life to Jesus?