Question: Porn Killed My Feelings For God, Now What?



Anonymous asked:
I am in a rut. I have been trying to deal with some sexual immorality, and I had been changing, turning to God in my temptation, until recently I went on a mini sin spree. I am talking about several things, porn, masturbation, ect. So now as I try to start over, I don’t really “feel” god. I feel no connection to him, it is hard to pray, ect. But, I want to still obey him and act in a way that is pleasing. So how can I make modifying my behavior about HIM when I can’t exactly “Feel” him?

You said an interesting thing there that pretty much nails the real Christian life: You don’t “feel” God but you still want to obey Him and please Him. That sounds just about right.

Should I only be nice to children and not punch them when I “feel” like it? Should I not do 150 in a school zone unless I “feel” like it? You see where I’m going there. Your fear is that just obeying God will only be a religious, duty-like, Pharisee-esque behavioral modification. But that’s a lie that the postmodern church has slammed over and over. Once again, effort is NOT legalism.

Of course, you can end up blindly following rules and coldly doing pragmatic techniques for self-improvement, but even the very heart of your statement — to obey God — suggests you already have your heart in the right place. Obeying God is a whole mess of emotions, identity, intellect, and physical action (heart, soul, mind, and stregth) that will tumble over one another in a non-formulaic journey of tough progress. So if you’re going to feel guilty about not “feeling” God, that’s rather the Captain Obvious statement.

It’s also possible you have an ulterior motive that you’re not aware of. Like you say you want to obey God but since you don’t feel Him, “Well I might as well not.” In that case, get off the self-pity train and get serious about your sin. If you’re not really serious about it — which I wasn’t for years — then you’ll have some serious introspection and prayer to do. Plenty of people say they want to overcome porn, but if you’re really not serious, you’re just wasting more time denying the sin that will kick you around for the rest of your life.

If you want, read here or here for more help. Those are past blog posts about battling porn.


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2 thoughts on “Question: Porn Killed My Feelings For God, Now What?

  1. Excellent reply to the writer, JS, because we don’t base our faith upon our feelings. Feelings don’t matter when it comes to faith. We trust God, despite what our feelings may tell us. Our feelings can be used to trick us.

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  2. I don’t think that this person lost God. With the temptations of the World it becomes a battle to make the right decisions. What most people have is a lack of judgement, and a lack of human control over good judgement which puts them in a conflict with God and wisdom. As human beings we are are in conflict with daily life period, we have many obsticles that come our way, and we don’t always make good sound decisions. When someone has lack of control in certain areas, they decide that they are an evil person, so they must not be good enough, that they are never going to be good enough and, they start to lose their faith rather than take each day, ask god for forgiveness every single night before you go to sleep, and keep asking night after night. It may take them many nights, but God knows what they are trying to do, and will still be there for them in their troubles. I would say to this person, don’t give up. That’s the easy way out!

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