In response to my post, “Giving A Person More Attention Because They’re Attractive: And We All Do It,” I received a very heartbreaking yet encouraging email from a certain Mr. Harold Cameron.
I am posting it here by his full permission.
A little food for thought and some insight into the current church culture.
Dear Pastor Park,
Grace and peace be unto you.
Yes and again I would say yes to the point you made in your article; it causes me to feel very sad.
Being older, I’m 56 and disabled with 2 brain tumors, a brain-tumor induced form of mental illness, and other health concerns. I am far from young or “beautiful.” However, I do love the Lord and delight in serving him.
At a church I once attended I was a greeter and helped people with their name tags, answered newcomer’s questions, and whatever else needed to be done to help people as they came into the church. I soon learned I had 2 problems. One problem was that I have memory and cognitive impairment and forget people’s names; the fact that I could not remember the name of the local evangelical community’s top leader’s wife’s was almost as bad as committing the “unpardonable sin.” And the other problem I had which I did not know about was that I just was not young, good looking, and “beautiful” enough to help anymore so I was asked to stop serving. I kid you not.
I was told this flat out by the pastor under whose preaching ministry I was saved out of a life of over 40 years as a homosexual. It all boiled down to the fact that from the time you entered the church, the young beautiful talented worship team performed and then the young pastor got up to speak — it was all “beautiful people” that were involved in ministry and serving. And anyone that was not “beautiful,” well, they could serve by putting the parking signs outside, or they could just leave as many have done.
And as I have walked in over 150 cities in our country attending a number of churches I see the same thing in many of the churches, all young and “beautiful” people serving, singing, and teaching or preaching. And I just think there is something wrong with churches catering to either the “beautiful” people or the “wealthy.” But in the end, God knows their hearts, and God will judge. He will judge me just as he will them.
Thank you for writing your very timely and sobering article. And feel free to share whatever part of this email you wish to in the event you do want to quote from it. You also have permission to use my name.
May God have mercy on us all and on our nation.