Three things, number one: Your blog is great, you have an anointing that not many pastors have today. No. 2: My dad died about a month ago and i am really struggling, i could use prayer. # III: Being a former atheist, how would you say is the best way to witness to them. I have a friend who was raised in the christian church an decided to stop believing.
Thank you so much for that. And I will certainly pray for you.
I’m not sure there’s an exact science in talking to atheists that would be different than talking to any other human being. No matter how much you tell people there’s an incredibly awesome party next door, there are always a few who won’t believe you. They might call themselves atheists, Muslims, Jews, Buddhists, Hindu, Wiccan, or Jedi, but stubbornness runs through all of us.
Keep in mind: There is a proportionate relation between a person’s stubbornness and your attempts to reach out. The more intensely you reach out, the more they will thicken their walls. Some will say, “Kill them with kindness,” but even being-a-nice-guy can turn into Love Bombing, which is the insincere show of sincerity to “win” them.
Your friend is in a delicate state where your movements, no matter how kind or classy, can be interpreted as aggression. Your logical arguments, those airtight apologetics, and your superior Christ-like behavior cannot ultimately persuade someone back to church, much less back to God.
If this sounds pessimistic and you’re waiting for, “BUT here’s how to …!” — then I’m sorry. There’s no happy-ending bowtie here, at least not in the immediate future. This is only the part where I tell you that instead of worrying about your friend, worry about yourself.
As much as you might not think so, you will soon feel a need to control the spiritual life of your friend so he or she “snaps out” of his whole unbelief, and this will make you act really weird. Like frustrated, overly nice, angry, impatient, depressed, self-blaming, and guilty. Please don’t go that direction.
Three things: Pray, be patient, and be a friend. 1) I believe prayer isn’t just a means to change ourselves, but actually gets God to change things. 2) Patiently wait, because anything else would be sin, and sin only divides. 3) Your friend still needs you, whether they admit it or not, because you might be the only voice of reason left.
At some point they may or may not come to the end of their atheism-rope, and if you were a patient, praying friend, they’ll come looking for you. If you weren’t, they won’t.
In the mean time, study up on your apologetics (it might help), know your Bible (that always helps), and pray like crazy. Pray for a heart of love towards your friend, which it seems like you already have. Imagine if you knew your friend would come around in six months. It would suck if you only stayed around for five. God can find someone else for His glory, but I bet He’d rather much do that through you.
Also read this.